Grieving the loss of a loved one is a complicated, difficult and painful process to go through. What about for children? What does grief look like for them? As parents, grandparents, siblings, and other relatives of children, it is sometimes hard to know how to help a child who has experienced a significant loss. Below are some tips on how to be there for a child who is grieving.

Support

Let the child know you are there for them. When a child experiences a loss-their world as they know it has changed significantly. Providing continuous comfort and reassurance that you are there for them can be very helpful in their grieving process.

Respect

Respect that there are different ways to grieve. Let the child know that there is no right or wrong way to go through this process. There might be moments they feel really sad and that’s okay. There might be moments they feel full of joy and happiness. Its’ okay to feel many different emotions when experiencing loss.

Listen

Listen without judgment. As hard as it might be-don’t try to fix, evaluate or judge-just listen. Ask open-ended questions, reflect back on what the child says, and be there to provide support and comfort when needed.

Honesty

Be honest. You might be faced with very difficult questions from the child. It is better to be upfront and honest. Children want the truth-plain and simple. Try and help them understand what has happened in very concrete and simple terms.

Remember

Provide opportunities for the child to remember there loved one. Whether it is making a memory book, creating a special day, or simply allowing opportunities to talk about the person who has died allows a child to grieve in their own way that feels right for them.